Episode 60: Communicating Like a Boss: Your Pack Leadership Mama Voice

In this episode, I tell a story about this really large dude sitting next to me on a recent flight. I think you guys are going to possibly squirm with a little discomfort as you hear about my exchange with him.

As women, I think contrary to the common belief that we’re the ones who love to talk about all things touchy feel-y...clear assertive communication isn’t often our strong suit. Especially when we need to speak up for ourselves. This is an important convo for all of us to have because as the “pack leaders” of our families, it’s very important that we learn how to communicate and lead effectively. It helps our kids feel safe in the world. It also programs our children with these important skills so they learn how to do this for themselves as they grow into pack leaders themselves one day.

Topics Covered:

If you’re a mom who is to be sick to death of fighting with your strong-willed kiddo, join us April 23-25 for the free 3 day challenge: Stop Fighting with Your Strong-Willed Kiddo - you can sign up here: mastermindparenting.com/challenge

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Episode 59: The Mom Manual

In this episode, I discuss the unspoken, unwritten “good mom manual” that many of us have for ourselves. I think you’ll really resonate with this episode and be surprised by what I have to say about parent attendance at your kid’s sport’s events. Of course, there are also some fun “Rambly Rubenstein” insights I share about myself and about finding yourself in The Parent Gap during those heated moments when you find yourself not being the parent you truly want to be. I’d love to know what was your biggest takeaway from this episode. Let me know!

Topics Covered:

  • What is the “Mom Manual”

  • The Parent Gap

  • D.A.R.E. - Dissolve And Release Experience

  • Parental role and attendance when it comes to your kid’s sporting events

  • Straitjacket feeling and learning to listen

  • Showing up authentically with your kiddos

If you’re a good mom who happens to be sick to death of fighting with your strong willed kiddo, join us next week for the free 3 day challenge: Stop Fighting with Your Strong Willed Kiddo - you can sign up here: mastermindparenting.com/challenge

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Episode 58: 3 Tips to Get Kids to Step Up and Help Out Around the House

In this episode, I discuss the real reason why your kids aren’t pitching in and what you need to do to change the un-helpfulness pattern. You don’t want to miss this one! You’re welcome. 

Topics Covered:

  • The truth about effective leaders

  • Why feeling powerless plays in

  • Allowing your kids the opportunity to feel valuable on the family team

  • Mind mastery is essential to “get” your kids to be helpful

The 3 tips:

1. Own your role in the current pattern

2. Have a productive conversation

3. Expect to remind and repeat yourself

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Episode 57: Isn’t a Little Dose of Fear Good for Kids?

In this episode, I talk about the common belief that all kids need a healthy dose of fear to turn out well and choose to do the right thing. I dispel this myth and explain the way to encourage your kids to “do the right thing” without fear-based thinking running the show.

Topics Covered:

  • Fear-based thinking

  • Mama social engineering

  • Teenagers and using fear and control to protect them

  • Primal wiring and why fear is our autopilot programming

  • "What you focus on grows” and focusing on fear will manifest the thing you’re fearful about

For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery

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Episode 56: What If My Kid is Different and Cannot Be Disciplined?

In this episode, I talk about ineffective parenting strategies being at the root for many parents with strong-willed kids. This is a very complicated and difficult topic because there is usually quite a bit of shame and blame on the scene. Being a parent is vulnerable. When you have the courage to get curious about WHY things feel so outta control in your household, well that’s when you’ll start to turn it around. Because trust me, I mean it when I say, I developed Mastermind Parenting specifically for these kids. The bonus is that Mastermind Parenting is effective with all kids - not just your most challenging one. Your situation will get better because you listened to this episode. This is step one.

Topics Covered:

  • Strong-willed kids and what’s really going on with the dictator dance

  • Shame/Blame/Vulnerability based on the work of Brene Brown

  • Power struggles and what’s really going on

  • Mastermind Parenting Pillar: All behavior is communication

  • Dr. Ross Greene - "Kids do well if they can."

  • Ineffective Parenting

  • Marie Forleo - “Everything is figure-out-able”

For more help with strong-willed kids, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery

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Episode 55: What If This “New Age” Parenting Doesn’t Work with My Kid?

In this episode, I break down the reason why the more mod parenting strategies are probably not working for you. It’s usually a fairly straightforward tweak that needs to be made and not a hard problem to diagnose. If you’ve been questioning why these techniques seem to only work in theory but not in real life, I think you’ll find this discussion eye-opening.

Topics Covered:

  • Strong-willed kids and what they need to thrive

  • The Dictator Dance

  • Not throwing the baby out with the bathwater

  • Not all of the old school methods are bad and we can learn

  • EMDR therapy

  • Pack Leadership and Assertiveness

  • Empathy

  • Structure and helping kids feel safe in the world

Not sure this "new age" parenting is working for you? Reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery

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Hear about my family history and the tools that have helped me replace old parenting patterns that simply don’t work with these puzzling kiddos. It's my way of paying it forward as a human that wants our kids to experience a kinder and more generous world. Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/book

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Episode 54: Working Mom vs. SAHM - Which Kids Turn Out Better?

In this episode, I talk about a pretty controversial topic - working vs. stay at home moms. I think you guys might be a bit pissed off with me about this one. It's okay. Really. I love you enough to level with you about these things. Even though these are hard conversations and involve the courage to get really honest with yourself and call yourself out on your own bullsh!t, it’s a way to go to the next level of mastering your own mind. Trust me, this is personal for me.

Topics Covered:

  • Mom Judgment

  • Insecurity

  • “Common Enemy Intimacy” a theory by Brene Brown

  • Which kids turn out better?

  • Looking at judgment (Judgment Detox book by Gabby Bernstein)

  • Making a choice to work or stay at home that is aligned with what you REALLY want

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Hear about my family history and the tools that have helped me replace old parenting patterns that simply don’t work with these puzzling kiddos. It's my way of paying it forward as a human that wants our kids to experience a kinder and more generous world. Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/book

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Episode 53: Top Homework Tips and Raising “Readers”

In this episode, I share my opinion on your role when it comes to your kid’s homework. I discuss some mindset shifts around learning differences like ADHD, anxious kids, dyslexia and dysgraphia. I also share my top tips for helping your kids to become lifelong readers. I think you might be surprised by some of my experiences and how my approach is different than what you might be hearing from “the educators”. 

Notes: 

If you find yourself feeling defensive about why their learning difference justifies the need for you to sit with them day in and day out and manage their workload, I’d like to invite you to explore a few questions:

Is your child in the right school?

Have you communicated with the school/teacher and advocated for the right kind of support for your child. Remember, they are spending 7-8 hours a day at that school and if your child is not spending that time learning the way their brain requires, well that’s a helluva lot of wasted time.

Think back in your own life to the things you’ve accomplished and feel proudest about. Was there a challenge involved that you overcame? How did you do it? Were you scrappy and resourceful? Was someone holding your hand helping you figure it out?

Recap:

Stop sitting with your kids while they do their homework. If you’re doing this, it’s a sign that things need to shift.

If your child has a learning difference, advocate by communicating with their teacher that they need to get the resources during the 7-8 hours during their school day.

If your kid is in the wrong learning environment and homework is the bane of YOUR existence, find a better situation. It’s 2019 and we have this awesome resource called the internet - there are many different virtual educational options…

Turn off the screens at night and read with and/or next to your kids and stop timing them!

If you don’t know how to make these shifts, reach out to me for support http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery

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Episode 52: Clips From a Recent Workshop with Randi

In this episode, I included some helpful clips from a recent workshop where I discussed why our kids push our buttons and what’s really going on. I shared a story about a mom with a shy daughter who was struggling socially to engage with the other kids. Many moms at the workshop related to this story and wanted to talk with me afterwards about their child. I make time EVERY week to talk with real parents about the thing that “keeps you at night” and how I can help. I encourage you to reach out and hop on my calendar if you’re ready to get some sleep! randirubenstein.com/discovery

Topics Covered:

  • Is parenting innate?

  • The Parent Gap defined

  • Why our kids push our buttons and what’s really going on

  • Why we feel so damn guilty as parents

  • Why we repeat patterns

  • How to change your family’s legacy

  • The future for our kids

  • Shy kiddos

  • Why we are so affected when our kids have similar struggles to ones we experienced as kids

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Hear about my family history and the tools that have helped me replace old parenting patterns that simply don’t work with these puzzling kiddos. It's my way of paying it forward as a human that wants our kids to experience a kinder and more generous world. Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/book

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Episode 51: Terrible Two’s and Terrible Teens

In this episode, I talk about a recent post in a moms group on social media about a terrible 2-year-old. I think you guys will enjoy my thoughts on this post and the comments I read. Enjoy!

Topics Covered:

  • Terrible twos

  • Teenage rebellion

  • What you focus on grows

  • All behavior is communication

  • Kids tell us how they feel on the inside by their behavior on the outside

  • Kids learn by what we model

  • Our old programs

  • Spanking

  • Assessing basic needs - Sleep, food, activity

  • Sleep deprived kids have the same symptoms as an ADHD diagnosis

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