Episode 55: What If This “New Age” Parenting Doesn’t Work with My Kid?

In this episode, I break down the reason why the more mod parenting strategies are probably not working for you. It’s usually a fairly straightforward tweak that needs to be made and not a hard problem to diagnose. If you’ve been questioning why these techniques seem to only work in theory but not in real life, I think you’ll find this discussion eye-opening.

Topics Covered:

  • Strong-willed kids and what they need to thrive

  • The Dictator Dance

  • Not throwing the baby out with the bathwater

  • Not all of the old school methods are bad and we can learn

  • EMDR therapy

  • Pack Leadership and Assertiveness

  • Empathy

  • Structure and helping kids feel safe in the world

Not sure this "new age" parenting is working for you? Reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery

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Episode 54: Working Mom vs. SAHM - Which Kids Turn Out Better?

In this episode, I talk about a pretty controversial topic - working vs. stay at home moms. I think you guys might be a bit pissed off with me about this one. It's okay. Really. I love you enough to level with you about these things. Even though these are hard conversations and involve the courage to get really honest with yourself and call yourself out on your own bullsh!t, it’s a way to go to the next level of mastering your own mind. Trust me, this is personal for me.

Topics Covered:

  • Mom Judgment

  • Insecurity

  • “Common Enemy Intimacy” a theory by Brene Brown

  • Which kids turn out better?

  • Looking at judgment (Judgment Detox book by Gabby Bernstein)

  • Making a choice to work or stay at home that is aligned with what you REALLY want

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Episode 53: Top Homework Tips and Raising “Readers”

In this episode, I share my opinion on your role when it comes to your kid’s homework. I discuss some mindset shifts around learning differences like ADHD, anxious kids, dyslexia and dysgraphia. I also share my top tips for helping your kids to become lifelong readers. I think you might be surprised by some of my experiences and how my approach is different than what you might be hearing from “the educators”. 

Notes: 

If you find yourself feeling defensive about why their learning difference justifies the need for you to sit with them day in and day out and manage their workload, I’d like to invite you to explore a few questions:

Is your child in the right school?

Have you communicated with the school/teacher and advocated for the right kind of support for your child. Remember, they are spending 7-8 hours a day at that school and if your child is not spending that time learning the way their brain requires, well that’s a helluva lot of wasted time.

Think back in your own life to the things you’ve accomplished and feel proudest about. Was there a challenge involved that you overcame? How did you do it? Were you scrappy and resourceful? Was someone holding your hand helping you figure it out?

Recap:

Stop sitting with your kids while they do their homework. If you’re doing this, it’s a sign that things need to shift.

If your child has a learning difference, advocate by communicating with their teacher that they need to get the resources during the 7-8 hours during their school day.

If your kid is in the wrong learning environment and homework is the bane of YOUR existence, find a better situation. It’s 2019 and we have this awesome resource called the internet - there are many different virtual educational options…

Turn off the screens at night and read with and/or next to your kids and stop timing them!

If you don’t know how to make these shifts, reach out to me for support http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery

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Episode 52: Clips From a Recent Workshop with Randi

In this episode, I included some helpful clips from a recent workshop where I discussed why our kids push our buttons and what’s really going on. I shared a story about a mom with a shy daughter who was struggling socially to engage with the other kids. Many moms at the workshop related to this story and wanted to talk with me afterwards about their child. I make time EVERY week to talk with real parents about the thing that “keeps you at night” and how I can help. I encourage you to reach out and hop on my calendar if you’re ready to get some sleep! randirubenstein.com/discovery

Topics Covered:

  • Is parenting innate?

  • The Parent Gap defined

  • Why our kids push our buttons and what’s really going on

  • Why we feel so damn guilty as parents

  • Why we repeat patterns

  • How to change your family’s legacy

  • The future for our kids

  • Shy kiddos

  • Why we are so affected when our kids have similar struggles to ones we experienced as kids

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Episode 51: Terrible Two’s and Terrible Teens

In this episode, I talk about a recent post in a moms group on social media about a terrible 2-year-old. I think you guys will enjoy my thoughts on this post and the comments I read. Enjoy!

Topics Covered:

  • Terrible twos

  • Teenage rebellion

  • What you focus on grows

  • All behavior is communication

  • Kids tell us how they feel on the inside by their behavior on the outside

  • Kids learn by what we model

  • Our old programs

  • Spanking

  • Assessing basic needs - Sleep, food, activity

  • Sleep deprived kids have the same symptoms as an ADHD diagnosis

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Episode 50: How to Teach Your Kids to Speak Up for Themselves Without Acting Like Jerks

In this episode, I tell 2 stories of how kids (12 and 4) learned to respectfully and effectively use their voice. I also share a bunch of other helpful tips and tools to foster better communication for yourself and your kiddos. Enjoy!

Topics Covered:

  • Assertive communication

  • Kids learn by what we model

  • Passive and aggressive communication

  • Sibling fighting 

  • Showing and commanding respect

  • Pack leadership

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Episode 49: Pacifiers and Pattern Disruption

In this episode, I included audio about the way a mom in my private Mastermind Parenting community handled getting rid of pacifiers. I think this is an interesting listen not just for moms of toddlers, but for anyone that wants to know how to lead a difficult conversation with your kids and disrupt a pattern or break a habit. Whether it’s too much sugar and french fries or screen time, breaking a pattern can feel overwhelming and daunting. This episode has some powerful pointers to help you show up with “pack leadership” assertiveness to lead the conversation and follow through with disrupting a pattern that is no longer serving your family. Enjoy!

Topics Covered:

  • Pack Leadership

  • Assertiveness

  • Leading the conversation

  • Disrupting a pattern and how to do it

  • How to finally say goodbye to pacifiers

  • Empathy

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Episode 48: 4 Tips for Parenting Anxious Kiddos

In this episode, you will learn why I believe we can greatly help our anxious kids learn effective coping strategies when they lack skills and are feeling out of control. We don’t have to be afraid or feel powerless when anxious emotions are expressed by our kids. We do have the power to help them.

Topics Covered:

The 4 Tips:

  1. Manage your brain with a mantra

  2. Shift the focus from their head to their body. 

  3. Model breathing

  4. Empathy

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Episode 47: 3 Tips to Raise Responsible Kids

In this episode, I discuss the concept of being “too good of a mom” and how it creates a pattern of unhelpful kids. When we allow our kids to experience natural consequences as well as establishing expectations of what it looks like to be a “valuable” family team member, they grow up with confidence and resilience. This recipe is the best teacher of life skills for our kiddos and the bonus is that we don’t feel unappreciated, resentful or like motherhood feels like martyr-hood.

Topics Covered:

The 3 tips are:

  1. Own your role

  2. Lean out

  3. Stop fixing

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Episode 46: What It Means to Be a Resume Mom

In this episode, I talk about digging into what it really looks like to be a good mom. I know this is such a loaded topic for many of us. The secret worry of most parents is that we really don’t want to screw up our most important job…raising our kids to be healthy, happy and successful (however, we choose to define that). I tell a story about “younger me” and how I thought I was checking off all the boxes on my good mom resume and how I was missing the most important one - investigating what was really underneath my child’s whiny behavior.

Topics Covered:

  • HSP - Highly Sensitive Person

  • Resume mom defined

  • Night Terrors

  • Mastermind Parenting Pillar: All behavior is communication

  • Anxiety

  • Defiant behavior

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