What parent proudly admits that their kids are being raised with yelling loaded with lots of fear, threats and name calling?
A: A courageous one that is ready to take action and fix stuff.
As a parent, sometimes you may raise your voice from time to time.
It is not something you want publicized.
Yelling does not accurately reflect how much you love your kids.
It is just a behavior that may seem to happen more often than you wish it did.
You know it isn’t producing the results in your family relationships that you desire.
For now, it’s your autopilot response when the heat is on and you find yourself in a triggered moment with your kids.
You are human.
We all are.
We are a perpetual work in progress and that’s the way it’s supposed to be.
Because being human is messy business.
Just when we think we have things figured out with this whole parenting thing, our kids have the nerve to develop and move on to a new stage.
“It isn’t easy to stop yelling. You can desperately want to, and still find yourself screaming. If you were yelled at, it takes tremendous work not to yell. But if you know that you want to stop yelling, I assure you that it’s completely possible – no matter how ingrained it is. It’s not rocket science. It takes about three months.”
~an excerpt from the book: Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids
If you feel guilty deep down for yelling, your intuition is telling you that it isn’t working.
You know there has got to be a better way to discipline and teach your kids the lessons you want to impart upon them.
You know that yelling is destructive to your relationships and does not feel good for your kids or you.
There is a better way.
You can absolutely retrain your brain and change your autopilot yelling program.
Feeling guilty sabotages your brain’s ability to learn that “better way”.
So knock it off.
You’re a good person and you love your kids.
You both want deep connection with the other.
It’s time to feel like you’re on the same team.
If you are ready to admit your humanness and learn how to replace yelling with a more effective method, reach out for support.
I have programs and even many free resources and suggestions that I will share with you.
Have an amazing, guilt-free week.
You deserve it. You are doing the most important job on earth…
Growing people and it’s hard.
It’s hard not to react by yelling when you are upset.
Because you care deeply about the people involved.
A simple goal: Yell less and love more.
You’ve got this.