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The Story Beneath the Surface

By October 14, 2018March 30th, 2022Parenting the Strong Willed Child
The Story Beneath the Surface

Recently, I was chatting with one of my best friends.

My friend made a simple comment that really fired me up.

She said, “Oh while you’re probably writing a book and helping with world peace, I’m over here wasting my day away with hair and eyelash appointments”.

Sidenote: Her glam eyelashes make her look and feel like a movie star – truly fab!

And she likes to wear her naturally curly hair straightened – no small feat in humid Houston, Texas!

So basically, my friend was caught up in what I like to call, the story of “compare and despair”.

Within this story, our words are never kind and loving to ourselves.

In fact, in this story we are both the hero and the villain.

And guess who always wins the compare and despair battle?

You guessed it…the villain of unworthiness.

I. Was. Not. Having. It.

You see, my friend may look like she’s living a life of hair and eyelash appointments…

But I know the “behind the scenes” real story of her life.

My dear friend’s mom passed away far too young, at the age of 56.

My friend took a sabbatical from college to come home and be with her mama.

They spent that last month of her mom’s life lying side by side in bed…mostly just talking.

My friend’s final memories with her mom involve warmth, presence and REAL convos.

They laughed. They cried. They spent that month loving each other.

My friend promised herself that when she became a mom, every day with her own kids, would be like that last month with her mom.

Her kids are now 16 and 19.

They are the kids we all wanna raise – kind, respectful and beautiful people.

They adore their sweet mom.

My friend shows up with true presence and unconditional love in all of her most important relationships.

She experienced every kid’s biggest fear…losing your mom.

It changed her I’m sure.

She has never taken a day with her kids for granted because of her loss.

So yes, she may spend some of her time lunching, hair straightening and eye lashing.

However, my friend is anything but superficial.

Because when you’re raising and shaping people with unconditional love and support, you are CHANGING. THE. WORLD.

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