Today I introduce you to the “E” in the N.I.C.E. Framework, the final step in this roadmap to teach kids the skills they don’t have to manage their nervous systems and to turn around difficult behaviors. “E” stands for Enforce and it’s where we begin navigating the difficult task of balancing firmness and empathy while enforcing consequences sparingly.
We want to enforce consequences sparingly, as part of the N.I.C.E. Framework, which involves assessing basic needs, investigating behaviors, and communicating as a firm and loving “pack leader.” Consequences should be discussed out of the moment and should be logical and related. Following through on consequences can be difficult and uncomfortable, but it is a necessary part of disrupting old patterns and teaching children new skills.
“Disrupting a pattern by following through on a consequence that you discussed ahead of time and now you’re actually having to follow through on it pretty much always blows, but you can mentally prepare to lean into the suckage and do the hard things.”
In this episode, you will learn the following:
- How can understanding the N.I.C.E. Framework help transform strong-willed kids?
- What strategies can be used to effectively enforce consequences while still being a “nice” parent?
- How can the N.I.C.E. Framework help parents learn to communicate with their children in a language they can comprehend?
And much more!
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About Randi Rubenstein
Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.
She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.
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