Episode 35: How to Have Productive Convos About Sex with Anya Manes

In this episode, I sat down with Parent Coach and host of the annual Talking To Kids About Sex Interview Series. We had an informative conversation where we shared lots of personal stories. I think you’ll find it extremely helpful as you navigate these sometimes challenging convos around sex with your kiddos.

Topics covered:

  • Rape culture vs. consent culture

  • Porn and technology

  • What age you begin the birds and the bees convos

  • Open communication with your kids

  • Preventing your child from becoming the playground “sex-splainer”

  • Leaning into this difficult conversation and more!

Anya Manes is an educator and parent coach, specializing in helping parents talk with their kids about sex and relationships.  As a high-school teacher for over a decade, she became intimately aware of teen struggles and how our current sex-ed programs and parenting culture fail to give kids the skills they need to navigate adolescence safely.  Anya hosts the annual Talking To Kids About Sex Interview Series and speaks publicly at schools, parent groups, conferences, and private events. Anya coaches parents, privately and in groups, helping them build skills around feeling and defending boundaries, articulating sexual values, answering children’s questions, and becoming critical thinkers about sex in the media.

Resources Mentioned: To purchase Anya’s webinars on how to talk to your kids about sex: CLICK HERE

To sign up for Anya’s #metoo free parenting interview series: CLICK HERE

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Episode 34: Tips to Have Productive Convos About Rape Culture

In this episode I talk about how to have ongoing REALISTIC productive conversations with our kids about rape culture in light of the recent Kavanaugh public hearings. I share some personal stories of how I’ve broached this subject as a mom with my own kids.

Topics covered:

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Episode 33: The Sibling Fighting Tool

In this episode, I share a Facebook Live I did in my private Mastermind Parenting Basics group where I role play how to resolve a sibling fight for a mom of 2 girls, ages 4 and 7. I’ve never taught my sibling fighting tool publicly before and I think you’ll find this episode particularly helpful. It’s honestly, the best way to resolve sibling squabbles while also teaching your kids high level conflict resolution skills that they’ll use out in the real world. It’s really good stuff if I do say so myself!

Topics covered:

  • Sibling fights

  • Empathy

  • Calming down

  • The Calm Down Corner

  • Conflict Resolution

  • Assertiveness training

  • Seeing your strong willed child’s perspective and conveying it productively

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Episode 32: Mastermind Parenting Tool for Minis (under 3)

In this episode, I share a Facebook live clip from my private Mastermind Parenting group about how to help teeny tiny ones learn a better behavior when they’re doing something destructive or hurtful to another child.  

Topics covered:

  • Hyper little ones

  • Changing a destructive pattern of behavior

  • Communicating effectively to help a little one improve behavior

  • How to focus on the behavior you want to teach rather than admonishment

  • Examples of the repetition pattern to teach little kids appropriate behavior

  • How to assume positive intent and what it looks like in a real life scenario

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Episode 31: Unhealthy Mother-Daughter Patterns with Karen Anderson

In this episode, I had a conversation with the amazing Karen Anderson, author, coach and speaker who helps adult daughters who have “difficult” mothers. We talk about Karen’s story and all the knowledge she has around this very challenging topic.

Topics covered:

  • Unhealthy mother daughter patterns that get passed down from generation to generation

  • Overbearing moms

  • Boundaries

  • Compassion

  • Lynn Forrest’s work

  • The “Mother Wound”

  • The victim narrative

Karen C.L. Anderson is the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration and an advice columnist on Patreon where she marries her love of writing and her life coaching skills to help women in difficult mother/daughter relationships set healthy boundaries and learn to re-mother themselves.

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Episode 30: Why Kids Blame Rather Than “Owning Up"

In this short episode, I talk about a recent convo with my husband and brother in-law about an adult that kept “failing" in business and seemed to have an excuse or reason why each situation was not his fault. I share my thoughts on what we can do as parents to help our kids not become THAT guy.

Topics covered:

  • Blame

  • Failure

  • Perfection

  • Vulnerability

  • Taking personal responsibility and learning from mistakes

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Episode 29: How To Respond When Your Kid’s "Outta Control"

In this episode, I speak to a criticism/clarification made by a podcast listener re: how to respond to a kiddo in full blown “outta control” meltdown mode. I talk about being firm and assertive and how that looks in REAL life if you have a child prone to explosive behavior in an unregulated state and when to effectively use empathy.

Topics covered:

  • My response to a podcast listener’s criticism

  • Empathy and when it’s effective

  • Pack Leadership and Assertiveness

  • Strong willed kids and what actually helps them calm down when they’re in full blown meltdown mode

  • Creating a safe space for the child to calm down and why any attempt to try and talk them out of their feelings is futile when you’re in the heat of the moment

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Episode 28: 3 Reasons Why Your Convos are Unproductive

In this episode, I talk about why conversations are often unproductive and how to change that. We often think we’re having a conversation but it’s really just a lecture in disguise. A conversation that is centered around a parent’s agenda to “teach” a lesson is really a lecture. I think you’ll find this episode enlightening to say the least...it may even slightly piss you off. Love ya!

Topics covered:

  • How do I get my child to do ____? This is a sure sign of control and always leads to an unproductive lecture

  • You’re in The Parent Gap and thinking that if only your child would learn the things you want to teach them then they’d behave better and life would be smooth sailing

  • “You do you.” Why are you so triggered? Why are you attempting to control your child? What are you missing? What’s your child’s perspective? Did you really dig in and begin the conversation by seeing their perspective and putting your agenda aside?

  • You didn’t actively listen. You jumped into problem solving and missed this crucial stepl

  • Recap: The 3 reasons your convos are unproductive:

  1. Control and a hidden agenda

  2. Lecturing instead of active listening

  3. You’re in The Parent Gap

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Episode 27: Moms, Girls, Body Image Stuff - A REAL Convo with Dana Suchow

In this episode, I spoke with speaker and educator, Dana Suchow about female body image issues, eating disorders, diet culture and how to productively talk about this sensitive topic with our girls. We got down and dirty and had a rich convo. I think you’re going to find it super interesting and possibly take a pause to think about some of the “elephant in the room” topics we dug deep into. Needless to say, I thought we had a riveting conversation. Enjoy!

Topics covered:

  • Diet culture

  • Eating disorders

  • Food restriction and how it activates the scarcity signal in our “lizard”/primal brain

  • Gender binary (I didn’t know what this was until this interview)

  • Body awareness

  • Self awareness

  • Social media and what part it plays in our girl’s body image issues and suggestions for how to handle it

  • Moms and daughters and how moms accidentally exacerbate the situation when we see our girls struggling with something similar to what we’ve gone through

  • Modeling the behavior you want for your daughter when it comes to a healthy relationship with food

  • The role of the media in affecting our female body image basis

Dana Suchow - Speaker and Educator

Since overcoming Bulimia, Binge Eating Disorder and exercise compulsion that resulted in permanent injuries, Dana Suchow has become an expert in the field of body image and eating disorder prevention. Offering a nonclinical and holistic approach, Dana will teach you how to put your child on a path towards body love, empowerment and self-acceptance.

In 2014 Dana founded #MyBodyStory, an ongoing storytelling series created to uplift girl's and women's voices that so often go unheard.

You can read more about Dana on her website https://www.danasuchow.com/

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Episode 26: Real Coaching With Randi on 3 Strong Willed Kid Scenarios

In this episode, I include the Q&A portion of a masterclass I recently taught that I think many of you will relate to (especially those of you with a strong willed one).

Topics covered:

  • A strong willed and sensitive kid that ignores consequences and refuses to change his behavior or see the other kid’s perspective.
  • An oppositional defiant teenage boy who ignores the house rules and is taking part in risky teenage behavior.
  • The “gifted” child who’s a stellar athlete and an A student - how to help “that” child strive for excellence and be their best.

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