Episode 60: Communicating Like a Boss: Your Pack Leadership Mama Voice

In this episode, I tell a story about this really large dude sitting next to me on a recent flight. I think you guys are going to possibly squirm with a little discomfort as you hear about my exchange with him.

As women, I think contrary to the common belief that we’re the ones who love to talk about all things touchy feel-y...clear assertive communication isn’t often our strong suit. Especially when we need to speak up for ourselves. This is an important convo for all of us to have because as the “pack leaders” of our families, it’s very important that we learn how to communicate and lead effectively. It helps our kids feel safe in the world. It also programs our children with these important skills so they learn how to do this for themselves as they grow into pack leaders themselves one day.

Topics Covered:

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Episode 50: How to Teach Your Kids to Speak Up for Themselves Without Acting Like Jerks

In this episode, I tell 2 stories of how kids (12 and 4) learned to respectfully and effectively use their voice. I also share a bunch of other helpful tips and tools to foster better communication for yourself and your kiddos. Enjoy!

Topics Covered:

  • Assertive communication

  • Kids learn by what we model

  • Passive and aggressive communication

  • Sibling fighting 

  • Showing and commanding respect

  • Pack leadership

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Episode 49: Pacifiers and Pattern Disruption

In this episode, I included audio about the way a mom in my private Mastermind Parenting community handled getting rid of pacifiers. I think this is an interesting listen not just for moms of toddlers, but for anyone that wants to know how to lead a difficult conversation with your kids and disrupt a pattern or break a habit. Whether it’s too much sugar and french fries or screen time, breaking a pattern can feel overwhelming and daunting. This episode has some powerful pointers to help you show up with “pack leadership” assertiveness to lead the conversation and follow through with disrupting a pattern that is no longer serving your family. Enjoy!

Topics Covered:

  • Pack Leadership

  • Assertiveness

  • Leading the conversation

  • Disrupting a pattern and how to do it

  • How to finally say goodbye to pacifiers

  • Empathy

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Episode 41: Parenting your “Other” Kids (the Non-Strong-Willed Ones)

In this episode, I discuss how important it is to step into being the pack leader of your family in terms of your “other” kid’s overall mental health and wellness. If you have a strong-willed kiddo hijacking your household, this episode is just for you!

Topics covered:

  • Dr. Kristin Neff and empathic resonance

  • Imbalance of power

  • Pack leadership

  • "Victim first” sibling fighting parenting tool when violence is present

  • Focus on the healing, not the hurting

  • Focus on the “other” kid in a proactive way through noticing PET time

  • Be the soft place to land for your “other” child

  • If you’re allowing your strong-willed kid to hijack your household, you’re doing everyone in the family a disservice - and you all suffer. The strong-willed kid, the “other” kid, you...your marriage. All of you suffer. Pack leadership training is essential

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Episode 39: The 8 Foundational Tools To Raise Kind and Confident Kiddos

In this episode, I take you through the main foundational pillars of my Mastermind Parenting method. Listen up because these are the main concepts that will transform your household…like for realz!

Topics covered:

  • Creating a family team

  • Being a family that’s actually on the same team

  • The Mastermind Parenting Pillars: QTIP, All behavior is communication, Positive reinforcement, Pack Leadership, Intrinsic Motivation, Positive Intent, Empathy, Consequences

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Episode 29: How To Respond When Your Kid’s "Outta Control"

In this episode, I speak to a criticism/clarification made by a podcast listener re: how to respond to a kiddo in full blown “outta control” meltdown mode. I talk about being firm and assertive and how that looks in REAL life if you have a child prone to explosive behavior in an unregulated state and when to effectively use empathy.

Topics covered:

  • My response to a podcast listener’s criticism

  • Empathy and when it’s effective

  • Pack Leadership and Assertiveness

  • Strong willed kids and what actually helps them calm down when they’re in full blown meltdown mode

  • Creating a safe space for the child to calm down and why any attempt to try and talk them out of their feelings is futile when you’re in the heat of the moment

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Episode 24: Real Coaching with Randi

In this episode with podcast listener and SAHM, Heather, we dive into the secret worry most of us can relate to..."Am I screwing this up – are my kids going to struggle because I don’t know what the hell I’m doing?!?"

Heather is a perfect example of an awesome mama that doubts herself and her abilities as a mom. She is a former early childhood teacher as well as a mom that reads parenting books, listens to podcasts and has even taken a parenting class. However, she still often feels at a loss about what to do when her kids are misbehaving.

As you’ll hear, it’s all about mastering her mind to dissolve the limiting belief that “she is not a natural leader”. I think many of you’ll relate to Heather’s honesty and will gain a lot from this coaching session. Enjoy!

Topics covered:

  • Negative spouses and negative kids

  • Fix it mode and control

  • Exhaustion after a long day with littles and feeling responsible as a mom for things not going smoothly...and the need to defend our kids as “normal” to their own dad

  • Bedtime battles

  • When the kids only want Mommy and Daddy gets his feelings hurt

  • The bedtime window 7:30-8:30 and the 2nd wind when you miss it

  • Sensitive nervous system kids

  • Pack Leadership energy

  • Why pack leadership/assertive communication doesn’t come naturally for most women

  • Backtalk and disrespect

  • Why we usually handle these negative behaviors all wrong and make it mean something that it doesn’t

  • Leaning into the suckage when you’re disrupting a pattern

  • Sleep training

  • Role playing the productive convo establishing the new bedtime routine with Heather’s four year old

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Episode 21: Top 3 Tips for Managing Fortnite & Other Video Game Obsessions

In this episode, I recorded a FB Live in response to a podcast listener’s request for help with her teen son’s Fortnite addiction. There are 3 simple steps I cover in terms of navigating the boundaries around video game balance. This is realistic guidance for those of us who allow our kids to play video games and want to supervise and manage the situation without it becoming a constant power struggle. We are looking for video game balance. This is not a relevant episode for parents that have a screen free household…and for the record, hats off to ya! I’m secretly jealous and missed the boat on being able to pull that one off. Plus, if I’m really being honest, I've used technology as a sanity saving babysitter with my kids over the years. Just keepin’ it real people!  

Topics covered:

  • 3 tips:

1. Adopt a set of rules and communicate at a non/relevant time using Pack Leadership language and assertiveness.

2. Expect to remind and repeat often.

3. Follow through consistently without matching your child's upset attitude.

  • Laying the foundation with a productive convo
  • Addiction and how video game addiction compares to smoking or HEROIN!
  • Strong willed kiddos and why these tips work with all kids.
  • Productive convos are logical and respectful and therefore you’re kids are receptive.

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